Love Letter: Out With The Old & In With The New (1/5/22)
Happy New Year, love!
I wish you peace, joy, happiness, and intimacy in 2022. I wish you the courage to let go of what is heavy, the courage to start over if that’s what’s needed, the courage to go after your dreams, and to let yourself be supported along the way.
Your midweek mantra is, “I believe in Love.”
On New Year’s Eve, I shared some old ideas about love we must give up and the new ideas to hold as we walk together in 2022 on my Instagram page and wanted to make sure you saw them.
All of these are incredibly important to me and each one of the old ideas keeps so many people stuck. May we all transform our ideas about love.
Old ideas about Love:
- There is a timeline
- When you meet the right person you “just know”
- Breakups/divorce are failures
- Love is scarce
- Passion fades
- Something has to be wrong in order to ask for help with dating/relationship coaching or couples work
New truths about Love:
- There is no timeline. Please let this go. Everyone’s life is unique, everyone is living their own destiny and we cannot control when our partner arrives but we can control how ready we are to receive and how mature we are to participate in a partnership.
- You don’t “just know.” Stop chasing the spark or the fantasy “moment.” There is no moment. A partnership is about choice, every single moment, to engage within it, and may you always choose to engage with life.
- There is no failure or success in Love. It takes a lot of courage to end a relationship and a lot of courage to not only stay in one but actually work at it. You have not “failed” if you went through a divorce or a significant breakup. You have the power now to decide how your story is going to go.
- Love is abundant. There is more than enough for everyone to be happy and thriving. Scarcity is what keeps so many women stuck and chasing people in dating or attaching to the first person that comes around (who might not actually be good for them). A sign of thriving is being able to live in your wholeness and feel the abundance of Love is that available to you.
- Passion is nurtured in a relationship. It does not just fade and you don’t have to accept this as a reality. Relationships TAKE WORK. The ones that still desire each other and are passionate are the ones who do things differently and you can learn what to do to nurture desire.
- There is no shame in asking for help. If you have been dating and things aren’t working out for you – perhaps it is time to hire a relationship coach. If you are building a new relationship, why not work with a relationship coach to build a rock-solid foundation for your love? Did you know most people wait *6* years before they ask for help in their partnership? That’s 6 years of struggling that is not necessary at all.
You don’t have to struggle. You don’t have to do this alone. I continuously ask for help in my life and relationship and I am so grateful for it.
So, here’s to more healthy, happy, courageous partnerships and I can’t wait to share with you all I have created for 2022 and to walk with new clients and couples!
Check out The New Truth podcast episode from this week,”Setting 2022 Up to Be Your Best Year of Love.” If you desire more love in your life in 2022, Kate and I share the easiest, most pleasurable way to create it in this episode. Join us in opening your heart and transforming your love life.
I love you,
