Love Letter: Why I don’t want you to manifest your partner (8/23/23)

Today’s topic feels bold for me, but I really wanted to offer my perspective on this. 

I do believe in the power of our thoughts, feelings, and behavior. I believe that embodiment work is the most powerful work someone can do when preparing to receive any of their desires. 

I also have watched so many people drive themselves crazy trying to manifest a partner instead of focusing on the work that actually makes a difference in creating an amazing partnership. 

See, I don’t want to just help someone find a partner. I want to empower you to know how to STAY IN LOVE and create something amazing. 

The fairytale has us believe all we have to do is “choose the right person” (which is one big step!), but the NEXT STEP is all the relationship skills needed to continuously create something amazing. 

I never tried to manifest my husband. I focused on becoming the kind of person who was a match for what I wanted and aligning myself (which included my thoughts, feelings, and behavior) to participate in my love story proactively. 

Your midweek mantra is, “I am an active participant in the unfolding of my love story.”✨

I get that manifestation is valuable, but I also watch so many people focus on manifesting a partner rather than the embodiment work of becoming accountable and available for love. 

Many of the clients I’ve worked with have been trying all the manifestation actions, and they aren’t working. 

They aren’t working because love happens on the ground – with our bodies, hearts, and brains. 

It happens with another person – we aren’t manifesting an object. 

We learn how to partner with another human being who has their own dreams, needs, desires, reactions, and trauma! 

I think relationship skills are LIFE skills because all of life is a relationship. 

I support my clients in learning how to have a relationship with LIFE – one in which they recognize they are not alone but aren’t in a puppet show, either. 

The principles of manifestation are to believe you are worthy of what you desire, to be clear on what you desire, and then to be unattached to how and when it shows up. 

That’s all GREAT practice. 

Great relationships are MADE, are created, not stumbled upon, and not found with wishing and hoping. 

I never thought about manifesting a partner, but I did think about preparing for him. 

I did think about who I needed to become to be truly available for what I said I wanted. 

I did the work to learn the skills that I would need (and now continue to practice!) at nine years in a relationship and, especially now, as a mother. 

A relationship isn’t a destination. 

A great relationship is ALIVE – continuously nourished and given attention to. 

I walk with clients on the path to partnership, which is the path to coming home to themselves, healing their hearts, rooting into their bodies, and practicing the skills needed to create a great relationship. 

The best news of all – IT WORKS. It really works to love yourself, to open your heart, to communicate directly and effectively, and to receive the partnership you’ve dreamed of. 

Check out The New Truth podcast episode from this week, “How to Know if it’s Real Love.” Listen to hear us share the five principles of love and show you how to identify if you are choosing your relationships from love and truth or fear. If you are in an on-again-off-again situation, or you’re questioning your current or past choices in relationships – this episode is for you!

I love you,