Love Letter: Why Putting Yourself First is Essential (4/6/22)

This past week my husband and I had a meeting with our builders about our new house, and it’s incredible to see the progress being made! We’re praying that this is complete before the baby arrives in July but are surrendered to the time it takes to build our dream home.

We moved to Charlotte, NC, for many reasons, and today I’m feeling very blessed. 

Our new home is being built from the ground up, laying a new foundation for who he and I are now and who we are becoming in this next phase of our life.

It’s true; everything changes. Our relationship to change dictates the quality of our life and the quality of our relationship. So many people want things to be the same or want their partner to be the same as they were in the beginning! 

The magic is how you change TOGETHER. How you keep honoring yourselves and your commitment to each other and who you each become, over and over again.

I’m so proud of my relationship – our fierce commitment to each other, well-being, happiness, and growth. I’m proud of my incredible husband and proud of the parents we will be.

Your midweek mantra is, “I am responsible for my well-being, and I love taking care of myself.” ✨

A relationship is a thing unto ITSELF. 

Often I see people begging to be made a priority because they don’t know how to prioritize themselves FIRST. 

I don’t know who needs to hear this today, but the endless search to be made to feel important is not someone else’s job. 

The happiest couples are the ones who are happy FIRST – the ones who are committed to their individual fulfillment and health so that they then add to one another’s lives. 

The happiest couples are the ones that feed the relationship – and it doesn’t mean you need to spend endless amounts of time together or constantly process the partnership. 

The relationship is prioritized when the time is used well. When time spent together is in appreciation, exploration, trying something new, meaningful connection, physical intimacy, or date nights. 

Couples who don’t take each other for granted thrive, and couples who prioritize being connected, thrive. 

Prioritize your happiness and well-being FIRST, and then watch how the right people find you. 

Check out The New Truth podcast episode from this week, “How to Break Free From Wanting the Fairytale.” Kate and I unpack what drives us to want the fairytale in the first place and then how to let it go so you can experience real love rather than fantasy.

I love you,