Weekly Love Letters

Can you imagine if ALL parents understood that their parenting was going to impact their child’s capacity for healthy relationships? 🙂  I have been thinking a lot about my own healing journey and the continued healing that’s taking place now that I have been with my partner for 9+ years and since having a baby.…

If you’ve been with me for a while, you know my biggest problem with the fairytale is that it portrays love as something that happens TO you, something that’s effortless.  The work of growing up in Love is the recognition that love happens THROUGH you and is actually something you have to actively participate in. …

I just celebrated my daughter Madelynne’s first birthday! Holy cow what a year it’s been.  I know I’ve been mostly private about my postpartum journey but I will say that it has taken this full year for me to feel steady and centered. I am enjoying the ways in which I’ve shifted my work to…

Relationship skills are needed not just for romantic partnership but for EVERY kind of relationship! I continue to dream of a world where this is taught in schools and where we all have more compassion for ourselves as we choose to learn these skills. It takes tremendous courage to be willing to do the deeper…

It really is simple, not easy, but simple, to understand that everything is love or fear.  We seek love but engage in so many fearful behaviors around it!  For 11 years, I have helped women RECEIVE love. I’ve taught them how to heal and stop chasing love and instead focus on becoming receptive to what…

Last week we passed the summer solstice here in the northern hemisphere, my favorite time of year. We are also moving into my favorite month (JULY!) where I will celebrate 14 years of sobriety on the first of July, 36 years of life on the sixth of July and my beautiful baby girl will celebrate…

I believe relationships are our greatest teachers for growth, healing and transformation. ALL relationships, not just romantic. The relationship we have with ourselves, relationships with friends and family and especially the relationship we have with our children offer us so much teaching.  You’ve heard me say it 100 times – no one teaches us how…

Have I ever mentioned how much I LOVE summer? I was born in July (and love that my baby was too) and this week in June is a big one for Andrew and I.  We met on June 11, 2014 and got married on June 17, 2017. For us, the day we met is a…

One of the most overused phrases on the internet is “emotionally unavailable.” I think it IS important to understand what to look out for, and we certainly do need to learn what a healthy relationship looks like.  I wanted to point out some clear signs of emotional unavailability to be aware of (both in others…

There is no reason for ghosting to happen… at all. The reason it happens is because so many people are still afraid to own their truth, allow other people to have their feelings, and not protect their self-image. It isn’t great to get rejected, but it’s REALLY NOT GREAT to ghost. If you’re dating, you’re…